Your inlaws should have been shut down when they 1st started to criticize your skills. It is hard enough looking after your own children when you have them. You are on the right track already. As a bereaved parent myself, I watched this program with my 13yr old son. To me, the fact that both Kate and Rio evidently care so deeply for the happiness of the children makes them both fabulous parents without any question. As with most things in life you can’t really comment unless you have walked a similar path and as one who walks this one I say a massive well done to Kate. I think they will be a happy unit. I know that the stepmom role can be awkward, but it’s much more heart wrenching for a birth mother to have to put up with and be a spectator.