Good for you! My MIL used to show up Daft Punk shirt. She’d drive 75 miles, show up, then whine to hubby that she drove all that way, and I wouldn’t answer the door. She knows I work a full time job, plus have a cat rescue. When I get free time, it’s MY time. Finally just called her and told her to knock it off. Also to knock off the every night calls at dinner time. Ppl need to set boundaries, and others need to respect them. Traditionally, when it’s Thanksgiving time, in Britain someone will mention it, generally on the days itself, along the lines of “Oh, it’s Thanksgiving in America today”. The person/people they are talking to will give a kind of “uh” or “meh” sound as a reply, generally combined with a shrug of the shoulders, and then everyone will get on with whatever they were doing 10 seconds earlier and everyone quickly forgets that little conversation ever took place. When I was really young, about 4 or five, we lived in a house really near a beach, that has a huge backyard full of flowers and blackberry bushes that the past owners had been fond of and taken care of. the reason we could rent this house, was because the house owner’s grandma lived here, alone, and died of natural causes while in the garden. of course, its been years, since she was alive, and it was a good deal, so my parents rented it, for a year, and thought nothing of her. until me and my brother would come inside, dirt on our hands, and of course we didn’t know that anyone had died here. but we would say, and quote My baby brother at the time was about 10–11 months old and he was tired from another day of playing. We just came back to the hotel from the Universal Studio, it was really exciting but tiring. My baby brother wanted to go to sleep and not bath but he had to, so, like toddlers do, he threw a tantrum. He wouldn’t listen to anybody and was hitting anyone who would come near him. My father was the strongest man in the room so he went and tried to stop him. My baby brother refused to listen to my dad.